Build Yourself Up… to help & save others

I was reminded of a scripture today that I used very often in the past for debates on gifts of the Holy Spirit and in speaking in tongues:

…But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit, … Jude 20

I argued, “You see, praying in the Holy Spirit is praying in tongues, and that’s how you can build your faith”, never taking in the full context of the verse.  The fuller context is like this:

These are grumblers, complainers, walking according to their own lusts; and they mouth great swelling words, flattering people to gain advantage. But you, beloved, remember the words which were spoken before by the apostles of our Lord Jesus Christ: how they told you that there would be mockers in the last time who would walk according to their own ungodly lusts.  These are sensual persons, who cause divisions, not having the Spirit.  But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit, keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life. And on some have compassion, making a distinction; but others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire,…  
Jude 16-23

God reminded me today why we must build ourselves up; to keep


“but others save with fear, pulling them from the fire..”

ourselves in His love, despite a world around us that is going to sh*t.  And to actively look to have compassion on others so we might save them from their impending destruction.


Stop Self-Deprecating

Stop it.  It’s not funny.  It endears you to no one.

The lame, and very much overused, attempts at humor many men use at 1918117cdthat-awkward-moment-when-you-make-a-self-deprecating-comment-and-no-one-disagrees-b1319their own expense very often work against many of their own stated (or dreamed) goals and aspirations.  For men who wish to be all that God has called them to be, it’s an everyday challenge to be bold, decisive, confident, witty, and fun; especially when you don’t feel or act that way naturally.  Why do you continue to say things about yourself, even if true, that are contrary to the way you want to be?

Recently, I had an encounter at work with a soft-spoken, soft-bellied, middle-aged man who approached me at the coffee machine:

Self-Deprecator: “Hey. How are you doing?”

Me: “Oh. Hi [self-deprecator].  What’s up?”

SD: “What’s up?  Oh, I don’t know. No one gave me the memo.”

Me: “No one gave you the memo? Surely, you don’t need…”

SD: “… well, except my wife. She gives me a memo all time – mostly about all the stuff I’m doing wrong… ahahah.  amirite?”

Oof!  Wrong. You could see the very last of his soul just crackling with each word.  I felt bad for him.  Like a beaten dog, you could see he wanted more in life, but had just endured so much disappointment for so long. Continue reading